We want to talk about something that most members of the LGBTQ+ community struggle with: things we try to hide or change about ourselves before we come out.
We’re discussing the things we were ashamed of when we were young (playing with dolls), the things we wished were different about us growing up (our voices, mainly), and why we felt shame by not doing what society thinks a typical young male should do.
We also talk about internal homophobia and how it still affects us today in some ways. We feel it’s an important topic and would love to hear if you’re experiencing this, too. When we share vulnerable things that we’re embarrassed about or ashamed of, we realize that maybe we’re not alone and that many more people go through the exact same things as we do. It’s a comforting feeling and it’s one that can sometimes bring us all closer together.
We hope you enjoy, and let us know in the comments below what you think!
PJ & Thomas
Internalized homophobia definition: the involuntary belief by lesbians and gay men that the homophobic lies, stereotypes and myths about them (that are delivered to everyone in a heterosexist / homophobic society) ARE TRUE.
We’re PJ and Thomas, husbands living in a small southern town in Tennessee. We have a passion for restoring old houses and interior design, and in our free time you’ll find us eating pizza and watching movies, drinking wine, and saying “y’all” like it’s our job. We’re so happy you stopped by, where we focus on topics like marriage, design, LGBTQIA+ issues, and every day life. Won’t you stay a while?