Opening in theaters and VOD July 10th.

Starring: Margaret Cho, Tim Gunn, George Takei, & Dan Savage

After a break-up with his boyfriend, journalist David Thorpe embarks on a hilarious and touching journey of self-discovery, confronting his anxiety about “sounding gay.” Enlisting acting coaches, linguists, friends, family, total strangers, and celebrities, he quickly learns that many people — both gay and straight — often wish for a different voice. In Thorpe’s feature-length documentary debut DO I SOUND GAY?, what starts as a personal journey becomes a chance to unpack layers of cultural baggage concerning sexuality, identity, and self-esteem.

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33 COMMENTS

  1. Never really thought it was a big deal until I watched this. Now I'm so self conscious about my effeminate voice. Wtf

  2. I feel like I have the opposite problem. Every time I tell people I'm gay people say "You don't SOUND gay." and sometimes I'm concerned that people might accuse me of "internalized homophobia" because I don't have the gay lisp.
    I guess that's why I felt more at home in the furry fandom than in the mainstream homonormative gay male community.

  3. I think a major reason so many gay guys aren't into other guys who sound gay is b/c gay guys are (at least many) attracted to masculinity. People will say masculinity is just a construct. I don't agree. Males around the world tend to exhibit certain behavioral traits (body language…) that, regardless of culture, are recognizable as "masculine." I think the attraction (gays to masculine) transcends morality and lies deep in people's guts. "Gay sound" reminds guys, like effeminate behavior, of women. There's nothing wrong with it, but it's just not attractive to guys who're deeply into masculinity.

  4. It's true. My cousin who raised me I always say. Would say, You think I'm gay because I have good diction, he was right. Someone else said it in this preview.

  5. Certain Southern accents sound gay. I had a female manager from Alabama who sounded just like a stereotypical gay man. This preview suggested that men who "sound gay" talk more like women than men, but I'm not sure that's entirely true. They seem to have a unique way of speaking that's more exaggerated than a woman's manner of speaking. Like Tim Gunn said, "we enunciate". Women don't really enunciate more than men that I can tell. There's a study that showed that women are able to tell if a man is gay just by looking at a photo of him. It has to do with their facial expressions and how those expressions create lines on their faces. It's all really interesting to me. I wish I could watch this movie online.

  6. I despise that I often sound gay, you know, that fucking sing-song lisp. I work hard not to but it can be kind of stifling. It particularly shows itself when I'm speaking with strong emotion. I'm eager to seek out some speech therapy.

  7. I love sexy effeminate/masculine men. But what is the speech coach's name? I know he has an app too right?

  8. I hate the sound of my own voice. I think it sounds too high pitch. I'm only 12, and I'm hoping it's lower so that girls will like me better.

  9. There is a strong genetic component to this type of voice.

    I have personally witnessed boys, who had this voice at the age of 5, who years later turned out to be gay. Again and again.
    Humans have been noticing this pattern for CENTURIES.

  10. I don't sound like this, I have a more raspy deep voice but I still think I sound gay. I'm not gay myself, It's just my voice. It hurts so much when people make fun of me. It's my voice, why does it matter?

  11. Hallo Leute ich habe diese Problem in der Arbeit immer wieder Mobbing was kann ich tun. Ich kann nicht immer Arbeit platz wechseln

  12. To me it's stupid that people can tell someone was gay by their voice. Being gay is a sexuality. Your voice is your voice. If you want to tell yourself and others that you think you sound gay and you like it it's fine! I don't have a problem with that. To me I have the problem with just going "you must be gay because you sound it" or "you sound gay" because to me that's just them saying "are you gay" okay hate on me. I just have very strong views on the Homosexual topic and I hate, Homophobic people

  13. I think it is part of human nature to take physical aspects like looks/sounds/mannerisms and translate them to assumptions. We notice how people look, act, and sound. If I hear a man that has the voice that fits the "gay" voice, I will more than likely think they are gay. I think what separates the right and wrong from this is how we act with that assumption.
    I have a classmate that I thought for sure was gay by the sound of his voice and I recently found out he is actually straight. I don't think it is wrong of me to have thought he was gay or even to be a little surprised when I found out he's straight. I don't think it is wrong because I have treated him with kindness and respect no matter what assumptions I made.
    If you hear a "gay" sounding voice and then immediately act a different way because of the nature of that assumption then you are in the wrong.

  14. the guy who says when he calls the front desk and they say the mam thing I think it's mostly his Irish heritage if he is Irish to me that's what I heard because if his accent went a little bit quirker he sound like a stereotypical leprechaun.

  15. English is not my first language (actually it's Brazilian Portuguese).
    And I found this movie simply amazing.
    I think it actually goes beyond sounding gay or not.
    It touches on some aspects of speech that I simply didn't know were there in the first place.
    Kudos to each and everyone involved in the making of this documentary.

  16. I watched this bullshit. "I'm single. I don't want to be single. If I sound 'straight' the men I'm attracted to will be attracted to me." This documentary made the 'gay voice' the biggest problem in the gay community. I've heard all the reasons why men don't find themselves attractive and I'm not buying 'the gay voice' whine. How many times have you heard these? I'm too fat, too skinny, bald, not hirsute, too fuzzy, too short, too tall, not muscular, too smart, have facial hair, don't have facial hair, etc…. By the time you're done with all the reasons why you're not good enough, you're an emotional mess.

    How about you figure out how to become a complete person without that other person? Desperation is a turn-off and confidence is sexy. And dating…dating should be fun. Don't go with expectations other than to hang-out with someone you might like. If it's not right, be honest about that too. There's no need to hurt feelings, but there's also no reason to lead someone on. If I date someone who needs that special person in their life to complete them, I chew my arm off trying to get away.

  17. I am a heterosexual male who's constantly been asked if he's gay. I find that feminine voices tend to be under immediate suspicion. Granted, a lot of it isn't unfounded, but a lot of times you find someone with a fairly feminine vocal structure to be interested in woman a large majority of the time. Unfortunately, their questioning as if they're homosexual becomes a subtle agreement so the pseudo-homosexuals don't get the time of day to explain that they're not homosexual and lose out on a potential relationship

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